Life in the Slow Lane

By Dr. Roger A. Desmarais:

The gift of aging is seen in the value of the

Phoenix rising from the ashes of aging


The more elders begin to slow down, the faster the rest of the world becomes; the more the blur of meaning shifts from known to questionable, the harder it is to find understanding in the onslaught of speed and business, verbal and behavioral.


The gift of aging is seen in the value of the Phoenix rising from the ashes of aging, the ability to slow down and relish the truth in the losses to speed, finding meaning in retirement from the rush of doing and conducting business in a hectic world of finance and development.


Now is the time for personal growth in the new dimension of aging.

Life in the Slow Lane


Old life in the slow lane of a new life

Creates significant problems for the elderly

Trying to maintain some of the old norms of doing

Falter and stumble in the path of just being.

Speed limits become challenges to limited abilities

Fast lanes of commerce and shopping

Eat the souls of elders hanging on to competition

Trying to run with the pack

Vanquished even in the desire to run

Chastised by runners who smirk and give the finger

Jettisoning the value of the slow lane because unknown.

Yet, it is only in the slow lane that slow becomes beautiful.

A new sunrise on a new day creates a setting sun on the old.

It takes courage to just sit in the Fall of one's life

Learning lessons from the trees and falling leaves

How best to let them flutter to rest without fixing them

Watching with surprise the energy exerted for success

Supporting other leaves in their fall from the tree of life

All together fermenting the fruit of wisdom in elder-ing

Finding new truth in the decay of the old fast lane.

Standing in the initial fire of new discoveries in eldering

Finding it difficult to trust that ashes will produce the new norm

The new way of becoming and being needs the test of time

In itself a limitation depending on the endgame of life

Still open to the unfolding of whatever will become

Yet hesitant in the moment to commit to the now of change

Trying to find old strengths to compete with new anxieties

Wondering what is happening on the one hand

Fearful of what is happening on the other hand

Not in control of the evolution of the development

Yet trusting the deep-down drive to overcome and become.

It is still very difficult at the fork in the road

To move so slowly as to be minimized in the journey.

Dr. Roger Desmarais has written poetry on his experiences as a consultant to executives and their executive teams as a way to more easily connect with the Emotional Intelligent part of the total leader. This has also opened the opportunity to write poetry to define the Spiritual Intelligence that is the foundation for Ethical and Responsible Leadership—which is a growing request. His recently published book of corporate poetry taps the three intelligences: Intellectual, Spiritual, and Emotional: “Disruptive Poetry: Upsetting the Perfect Corporate Status Quo”